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The Tenacious Mama: Confessions of An Adoptive Mother
I’m currently on the roller-coaster ride of single parenting an adopted teenage son. Join me each week as I share my lived experience by starting with a confession, in the hopes of normalizing the complex issues that often come with parenting an adopted child.
The Tenacious Mama: Confessions of An Adoptive Mother
E3: It's not your fault, but it IS your responsibility
Confession: I started telling my son, “It’s not your fault you have all these cards stacked against you. However, it is your responsibility to figure it out and be a good person.” I will detail the many layers of Lane's trauma that have hindered his ability to form secure attachments with others and have shaped who he is today. I also share stories highlighting his sense of humor when he was little and a blog entry about his first visit to my home when we were transitioning him from his first foster family to mine.
Included in this episode:
*Lane's sense of humor<Nacho Libre
*Hollywood's portrayal of adoption as s win-win and love conquers all
*Lane's layer of trauma that have negatively impacted him
*hair-trigger temper when he was little<out of control rage in middle school
*Reactive Attachment Disorder?
*disorganized attachment
*"throwing shade" on compliments helps Lane accept positives
*funny blog entry from 11/4/10 Important lessons
My audacious intent for this podcast is to be a beacon of hope for parents and guardians like me, who are raising wounded children and doing their best to stay afloat. I have found my way from surviving to thriving and you can, too!
SHOW NOTES:
Understanding Epigenetics article
Adoption Trauma- Part 1: What is adoption trauma? Article
Attachment Theory on Brittanica.com
A few podcasts where you can find episodes on attachment theories and styles:
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Thanks for listening, Beloveds. Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will? Keep advocating for your child. And, most importantly, stay tenacious!
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Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development
BOOK RECOMMENDATION:
The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish
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