The Tenacious Mama: Confessions of An Adoptive Mother

E5: I made contact with Lane's birth mother...

Leslie (+song by Jasmijn White) Season 1 Episode 5

Confession: Last week I made contact with Lane’s birth mother for the first time.  I had no idea what to expect, but after meeting with her, I am cautiously optimistic that when he meets her and builds a relationship with her, it will be helpful for Lane’s healing.  I also share why this seemed like the right time to locate her, his nervousness/ambivalence about it, her response when I knocked on her door, how Lane reacted to the news, and my hopes for his future with her. 

Included in this episode:

*I always told Lane we could to to find his biological mother when he turned 18

*he recently expressed interest in finding her, then seemed ambivalent 

*I knocked on her door and introduced myself

*Lane's DNA test

*disorganized attachment is like being allergic to love

*communicating with birth mother via marco polo messaging app

*she made him a loving message, but not showing it to him yet

*I told Lane about the meeting and showed him photos

 
My audacious intent for this podcast is to be a beacon of hope for parents and guardians like me, who are raising wounded children and doing their best to stay afloat.  I have found my way from surviving to thriving and you can, too!


SHOWNOTES:

God Found Us You By Lisa Tawn Bergren

I Wished for You: An Adoption Story By Marianne Richmond

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Song written and performed by my dear friend Jasmijn White


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Thanks for listening, Beloveds. Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will? Keep advocating for your child. And, most importantly, stay tenacious!

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