The Tenacious Mama: Confessions of An Adoptive Mother

E10: Comparison is the thief of joy

Leslie Season 1 Episode 10

Confession: In those early years, I often looked at other families and thought, “It must be nice to have a kid who…” (dot, dot, dot, fill in the blank).  I still catch myself doing it sometimes, even now.  But comparison is the thief of joy.  I’m learning to let that shit go!

I share how comparisons with other families caused me suffering,  as well as the ways I learned to combat that with strategies to keep me grounded in joy and gratitude.  Additionally, an excerpt from another Sarah Naish book helped me to empathize with my son during difficult times.  

Included in this episode:

*blog entry written on 5/18/15: I regret not putting my son on medication

*examples of thoughts of, "Must be nice to have a kid who..."

*Welcome to Holland poem

*how I combat feelings of envy: gratitude journal, focus on strengths, breaks from social media, knowledge is power

*what helped me be empathetic with Lane

*"penguins don't fly" analogy from Sarah Naish

My audacious intent for this podcast is to be a beacon of hope for parents and guardians like me, who are raising wounded children and doing their best to stay afloat.  I have found my way from surviving to thriving and you can, too!

SHOWNOTES

The Quick Guide to Therapeutic Parenting A Visual Introduction by Sarah Naish

The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish


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Thanks for listening, Beloveds. Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will? Keep advocating for your child. And, most importantly, stay tenacious!

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